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My favorite book recs
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items I don’t read a ton, but when a book hits, it hits. Here are my favorite books so far,that helped me grow up, think deeper, and handle life when it gets messy. These are the ones I keep coming back to.
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If you want to actually stick to goals, start here. No fluff, just systems that work.
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break ...
How to understand why people act annoying/difficult, and how to respond without becoming difficult yourself.
How to Deal with Idiots (and Stop Being One)
Read this after realizing I said yes to way too much for way too long. It gives you actual scripts for what to say when someone crosses a line. Helped me stop feeling guilty for protecting my time.
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: Reclaim Yourself
It’s about friendship as much as romance, and it made me appreciate the people who’ve stuck around through my messiest years. Not a self-help book, but somehow more useful than most.
Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton
My go-to when I want a mental reset but don’t have the focus for a whole book. Short essays, no fluff, and at least one line per chapter that stops you mid-scroll. Good for slow mornings or bad days.
101 ESSAYS that will CHANGE the way YOU THINK Brianna Wiest
A therapist writes about her own patients — and her own therapy. It’s honest in a way that doesn’t try to wrap things up in a bow. Made me think differently about why people (including me) get stuck.
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her ...
Not really about investing — it’s about why smart people make dumb money decisions. Changed how I think about spending and patience more than any budgeting app has.
The Psychology of Money: Timeless Wealth Lessons
The “fixed vs. growth mindset” thing is everywhere now for a reason. Made me notice how often I avoid stuff just because I might be bad at it first.
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
My focus was garbage before this book. It’s basically the case for turning off notifications and actually finishing one thing at a time.
Deep Work Cal Newport | PDF | Flow (Psychology) | Cognition
Not a self-help book, just a wild ride through human history. Makes everything going on right now feel a little less permanent.
'Sapiens' by Yuval Noah Harari
The anti-“follow your passion” book. Argues you get to love your work by getting good at it, not the other way around. Needed this one.
So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion…
Thin book, hits different. Helped me stop being so hostage to my own inner monologue.
The Untethered Soul: Journey Beyond Yourself
Written in 1936, still works. Sounds cheesy but it’s really just a manual for making people feel heard — underrated life skill.
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
This book cuts through the toxic positivity and tells the truth: you can’t care about everything, so you better choose what actually matters. It’s funny, blunt, and weirdly freeing — it gives you permission to stop chasing approval and instead focus ...
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Even if “leadership” isn’t your title yet, this is really about having hard conversations without shutting down. Useful for basically every relationship, not just work.
Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations
Learning Items
Whether you are a member of the Nigerian diaspora reaching back for a taste of home, a curious cook eager to explore one of the world's most underrated food traditions, or a seasoned kitchen hand looking to master something genuinely new, this book w...
The Ultimate Nigerian Soup Bible: 50 Authentic Recipes ...