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Long Distance Relationships: Tips for Success
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items My husband and I met years before we could close the gap between New York and California, but throughout the ups & downs of distance and life love prevailed. Here are some helpful tips that helped us stay connected and have fun over the miles š
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Use your preferred method for video calls and set up a daily or weekly schedule for quality interaction. Consistency will help you build trust and reduce anxiety. My husband and I used Skype as it was reliable for both of us and we could maintain sta...
Communicate Face to Face with Consistency
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Small interactions count so don't be afraid to eat a meal together, workout or do chores over video chat. It gives a sense of normalcy & presence and it's a fun opportunity to get to know each other's regular lives and quirks
Share Daily Life
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Sometimes one of the hardest challenges to long distance love is developing and maintaining trust. Previous experiences in general relationships may lead some to find it hard to avoid negative assumptions/accusation or balance giving space and feelin...
Build Trust
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There are plenty of quizzes to find your Love Language, fight language, personality types and so on, and they are important for learning about yourself and your partner. Sometimes the best way to get to know each other is with fun. Buzzfeed offers a ...
Find Fun Ways to Get to Know Each Other
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Finding activities you can do together even without being on a call is important. Games, especially Mmorpgs, are great ways to share a digital space, learn how your partner thinks or just have playful interactions. This is the game my husband and I a...
Find Shared Activities or Games of Interest
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Looking forward to being together in person can become more tangible by making a list of the things you hope to do & share when physically present. Keep expectations real and have fun! It's important to add things that aren't just for visits or d...
Keep a Relationship Activity Wish List
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Sharing through Google drive allows you to create albums you can add to and edit together. Make individual photo albums of each of you for the other and shared experience albums or screenshots you want to share etc. If you are a creative you can shar...
Create Private Digital Albums Together
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Long distance relationships need open communication and honesty for success. Discuss expectations for your future together and what may come along with your level of devotion. This won't be just one conversation as throwing too many topics together a...
Dream Together and Discuss Your Real Future
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Coming up with creative ideas for long distance date nights can be fun and challenging at times. Have a video call and try parallel cooking for a chance to work together preparing a meal at home. Find recipes you both enjoy that have compatible skill...
Date Nights
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Streaming movies together is a relaxing way to spend time together. A plan from Netflix allows you to add a member of they don't live in your household and stream to multiple devices at once. If you are using different methods of streaming just make ...
Movie Nights
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One of our favorite activities as a long distance couple was using library apps to pick a book to read together and then taking turns reading to each other. This is a wonderful activity even for simple voice calls. I loved hearing his voice, we coul...
Read Together or To Each Other
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On days off you don't necessarily have to end the call when it's time for bed. Try having an all nighter and getting some rest while still connected. It brings your relationship to another level of intimacy and there's a strange normalcy to waking up...
Have Virtual Sleepovers
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If you're comfortable with the idea Google Maps let's you share your locations to feel connected. You can toggle location sharing on and off as you wish to give your partner an idea of your daily routine, locations you enjoy visiting and images of lo...
Introduce Your Neighborhood
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Introducing your significant other to your loved ones means a lot in any relationship so don't let your partner feel out of touch in this important way! Avoiding introducing a partner can make them feel like things are questionable, at worst like th...
Introduce Friends & Family
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If it's possible to visit each other, take the opportunity! LDR Reddit has some great advice on how to coordinate your plans. Use Google Sheets to keep track of your available vacation time and prepare a digital album or scrapbook app to keep the spe...
Plan a Visit
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Having a piece of jewelry with your partner's name or initials, or a matching item you know they are wearing too will bring smiles throughout your day as you are reminded of them. The small but meaningful gesture of a shared gift shows desire for con...
Send Personalized or Matching Gifts
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A thoughtful bit of cheer from a loved one can make a person's day brighter. Include handwritten letters in your care package, handmade items, framed photos, your favorite snacks, scented candles or other products that you want to share with them, ma...
Send Care Packages with Personal Touches
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Sharing a T-shirt or sweatshirt or pillow can be an intimate way to bond. Take a shower and put on your favorite cologne or perfume. Wear the shirt or use the pillowcase you intend to send for a day or so until it smells like you and a then seal it i...
Exchange Articles of Clothing for Comfort and Familiarity
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Being sensual while apart can require creativity and a lot of trust but despite distance intimate experiences can be satisfying and pleasurable. Check out this great list of ideas for intimacy that have tried and true recommendations
27 Ways to Keep Long-Distance Relationship Intimacy Alive
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Sometimes even though effort is put in on both parts, long distance just isn't meant to be. Sometimes you need to call it off or take a break and that's ok, just make sure to be respectful. If you become aware that your feelings have changed you must...
If Long Distance isn't Right for You