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Dealing with families at holidays
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items Hey the holidays are coming up soooooo so we all need some help figuring out how actually to have happy times with our families of origin. Some places that might help…
Look! A downloadable activity book for surviving holidays with your family! I made it for queerfolks but it's widely applicable in many situations…
FINAL TINY LITTLE VERY QUEER COLORING BOOK
Just some practical and/or impractical tips.
Hate May Not Be A Family Value, But Dysfunction, That's A Different Story
If you're familiar with 12 step groups you'll know what “in the rooms” means immediately. In The Rooms has pretty much around the clock groups of AA, some of which are open (meaning you don't have to identity as an alcoholic to attend) and there are ...
In The Rooms--live virtual groups
If all else fails, play an improv game!
Drama Game: Alphabet Conversation - Beat by Beat Press
I haven't personally used this app, but it's free and highly recommended by my therapist friends. And my friends' therapists. And my therapist.
Peer Support Network For Mental Health - Support Group | TalkLife
My sister and I have been singing “The presents are perfect/the dinner is perfect/the tree in the parlor/is the perfect one/then your mother/yells at your brother/Christmas is ruined for everyone." for decades. Highly recommended.
Dysfunctional Family Christmas - SNL
I love Dar Williams! I love this song! I love the line “and they get confused/by all the words you use.”
Your Fire Your Soul
The classic Dar Williams song about well, Christians and Pagans. Getting together for Christmas. My favorite lines are (not that you asked) "He thought of fathers, sons and brothers/saw his own son tug his sleeve/saying, "Can I be a Pagan?" /Dad said...
Dar Williams - The Christians & The Pagans (live)
You are okay yknow? This is the original music video from back in the day!
Indigo Girls - Closer to Fine (Official HD Video)
Because sometimes you just need LOTS of suggestions!
The Little Book of Self-Soothing: 150 Ways to Manage Emotions, Relieve Stress, and Restore Calm
Watch this with the captions on so you can see the Powerful White Dude say ineffectually “No. No. Don't do that.”
MPs break into 'protest haka' to disrupt New Zealand parliament
If it's something that physically (or otherwise) works for you, if all else fails say “Hey I'm going for a walk” or “hey let's all of us go on a walk.” And then say it's an awe walk and everyone has to shut TF up.
Guided Awe Walk Meditation
Am I suggesting you watch a 30 year old sappy cartoon with your family? Yes, yes I am. Because there are no anti vax theories in it.
Classic Care Bears | FULL EPISODE! Thanksgiving Showdown! Grams Bears Vs. Sour Sam!
A little family hope, written by me. Content note: it doesn't start out hopeful.
I Thought Coming Out To My Mom Would Bring Us Closer. Then I Received Something Shocking In The Mail.
Remember Mad Libs? You can create one together and have something to talk about that's not politics! Also Mad Lib is apparently trademarked. This site is word libs, but, same thing,
Mad Libs Online - The Word Finder
