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What I Actually Wear - Classic Worth It Favorites (Size 12/14/XL, 40+ Mom)
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items As a busy working mom in my 40s, I’ve learned what truly works for comfort, confidence, and style. These are the pieces I live in — the ones that flatter curves, feel effortless, and carry me from meetings to weekends. Use this as your blueprint, mix...
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Power Pieces (Work & Elevated Everyday)
Weekend & Casual Staples
Layering Staples (Cardigans, Cozies & Toppers)
Foundation & Undergarments
Shoes
Power Pieces (Work & Elevated Everyday)
This blazer gives me structure without stiffness — the bi-stretch fabric moves with you, so you can raise your arms, sit, and move all day. I especially love how it cinches in at the waist for definition. Pro tip: if you're between sizes, size up — i...
The Cutaway Blazer in Bi-Stretch
These ankle pants are a game changer. They have the comfort of a legging but the polish of a tailored pant. The side-zip is subtle and sleek. Style tip: Pair with a heel or loafer — they work great both under boots or flats. Shop these ankle pants fo...
The Side Zip Ankle Pant in Bi-Stretch
I reach for this jardigan constantly. It’s cozy, structured, and versatile enough to layer over dresses or trousers. It feels like a cardigan but wears like a blazer. Fit note: It runs true to size; if you prefer a bit more room, size up. Click to gr...
M.M.LaFleur Woolf Jardigan (Jacket & Cardigan Hybrid) | Saks Fifth Avenue
My go-to “look polished but stay comfy” pants. They stretch in all the right places but hold their shape all day. The thicker ponte fabric smooths without squeezing. Fit tip: true to size; size up if you want a relaxed fit. Shop the pants that feel l...
Quince Ultra-Stretch Ponte Straight-Leg 4-Pocket Pants
This top is one of my wardrobe workhorses. Dresses up with a blazer, wears on its own with jeans. The cut is flattering on middle-aged curves, and the fabric drapes beautifully. Style tip: Tuck it partially in front for effortless polish. Shop the An...
M.M.LaFleur Antonia Top | Saks Fifth Avenue
The curvy cut actually delivers: no waist gap, smooth hips, and flowy drape. These are elegant enough for meetings but easy to dress down with sneakers. Styling note: I pair these with fitted knits to balance the wide leg. Click to shop your “power p...
Ann Taylor Wide-Leg Pant — Curvy Fit
The soft knit makes this tee look elevated but feel casual. Works tucked into trousers or untucked with jeans. Click to shop your new “everything” top.
Ann Taylor Easy Sweater Tee
The perfect fitted cotton tee. Structured enough for layering, breathable enough for everyday. I keep a few in rotation. Shop the tee that’s never just a basic.
Everlane Slim Crew in Essential Cotton
Polished enough for under blazers, but cozy on its own. The neckline sits just right (not too high, not too scoop). Grab this work-to-weekend essential.
Ann Taylor Crew Neck Tee
Weekend & Casual Staples
These are my weekend go-to. Lightweight, breathable, and effortless. They dress up or down easily. I’ve worn them to brunch and beach escapes. Click to shop the linen pair I wear on repeat.
100% European Linen Pants in Black
This tee is deceptively elevated. Soft, flattering neckline, drapey in all the right places. I own multiple colors. Fit tip: size down if you prefer more shape; size up for a relaxed fit. Shop this elevated basic your wardrobe needs.
Cotton Modal V-Neck Tee
My weekend denim MVP. The high rise smooths everything without pinching, and the raw hem adds just enough edge. The stretch makes them insanely comfortable for errands or casual dinners. Fit note: true to size; size down if between — the waistband gi...
Wit & Wisdom Bennett 'Ab'Solution Skyrise Raw Hem High Waist Stretch
The best hoodie I’ve ever owned. Thick cotton, structured fit, and that “made to last” feel. It keeps its shape after years of washing. I wear it with jeans, leggings, and on school runs. Styling tip: layer under your duster or trench for an elevated...
American Giant Women’s Classic Full Zip
These jeans are like a confidence boost in denim form. Stretchy waistband, flattering rise, and that perfect slight-boot cut that elongates your legs. Fit tip: go with your regular size — they have give without bagging. Shop my all-day, no-dig jeans.
Wit & Wisdom Bennett 'Ab-Solution' Barely Boot High-Rise Jeans
I LOVE Pact Organic. Feels like sweats, looks like trousers. I wear these on flights, weekend errands, and WFH days. Soft organic cotton and flattering tapered leg. Fit tip: true to size; roomy through hips and thighs. Shop the pant you’ll wish you’d...
PACT Women's Black Airplane Tapered Leg Pant 2XL
The ultimate “goes-with-everything” bag. Made from buttery leather that only gets better with age, this crossbody is sleek enough for work but casual enough for weekends. The zip-top keeps everything secure, and the adjustable strap makes it easy to ...
The Zip-Top Transport Crossbody | Madewell
Layering Staples (Cardigans, Cozies & Toppers)
Lightweight, soft, and perfect for office A/C or layering over sleeveless tops. Styling tip: push up the sleeves and half-tuck the front for shape. Shop your new everyday cardigan.
Ann Cardigan Everyone Slim Crew in Essential Cotton
I’ve had some of these for YEARS! This is my favorite “investment sweater.” Soft, luxe, and holds up season after season. Fit tip: true to size for a clean fit; size up for a slouchy look. Click to shop the cashmere that earns compliments.
C by Bloomingdale’s Crewneck Cashmere Sweater
Flowy but structured — the ideal layer for travel, office, or lounging. Adds instant polish to jeans or leggings. Shop the cardigan that completes every outfit.
Bloomingdale’s Open-Front Cardigan — Exclusive
Long, lean, and luxe. I wear this over everything from dresses to joggers. It gives drama and comfort in equal measure. Shop the duster that makes any outfit look intentional. It is the PERFECT length.
Bloomingdale’s Duster Cardigan
Foundation & Undergarments
Soft, breathable, built for all-day wear. I love that I can just grab one when starting my day. Shop the pack that upgrades your basics.
PACT Women's Blue Gables Everyday Boy Short 5-Pack 2XL
These are my secret weapon. They smooth without compressing, hold you in just right, and disappear under skirts and pants. Click to shop the shapewear I wear daily.
SPANXshape ™ Invisible High Waist Mid Thigh Shorts
Once you try these, you’ll never go back. They don’t slip, bunch, or wear out. Made in Vermont, guaranteed for life, and perfect for boots or sneakers. Tip: grab both ankle and crew versions — they last forever. Shop the socks that truly earn their n...
Darn Tough VT Women's Treeline Micro Crew
I love these too!
Darn Tough Women's Run No Show Tab Socks
Shoes
These flats are buttery-soft and work just as well under trousers as they do with cropped pants. They’re dressy without being fussy. Click to shop the flats I wear for comfort + polish.
Sacchetto Ballet Flat
If you want to feel a little “fancy” with minimal effort, these moccasins do that. The bow detail gives a feminine lift, and they’re comfortable for day-long wear. Shop these refined loafers with a touch of flair.
Ferragamo Zaneta double-bow Moccasins
My “grown-up” shoe that still feels modern. The bow detail gives just enough femininity, and they’re broken-in comfortable from day one. Style tip: pairs perfectly with wide-leg trousers or cropped jeans. Click to shop the loafers that make any outfi...
New Vara Plate Loafer
Retro meets versatile. These add an effortless cool factor to jeans or dresses. Lightweight, cushioned, and timeless. Shop the sneaker that makes casual look intentional.
Adidas Gazelle
I wear these everywhere! Minimalist, sustainable, and ridiculously comfortable. Great for travel days or chasing kids. Breathable merino wool keeps feet happy year-round. Click to grab the sneakers you’ll actually wear daily.
Allbirds Women’s Wool Cruiser (Black)
Rainy-day essential that doesn’t sacrifice style. Waterproof, cozy, and built for puddles or slushy mornings. Fit tip: size up half for thick socks. Shop the weatherproof boots that look as good as they work.
Sorel Out N About IV Classic Waterproof Duck Boot (Women)
I call this my “rain or shine go-to.” Durable, classic, and protective. The waxed shell holds up over time. I consider the hood mandatory - grab it too. Click to shop this dependable outerwear duo.
Barbour Beadnell Water Resistant Waxed Cotton Jacket
Get the matching hood! SO worth it. It’s large and has structure. Great addition!
Barbour® Waxed Cotton Hood