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Books, Decks & Tools for Identity Reclamation
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items Books, decks, and reflection tools for questioning what you were taught, reconnecting with yourself, and building an identity that actually belongs to you.
This deck is such a must have for self reconnection and discovery. It also introduces us to some amazing figures we may have never heard of. It’s one of my clients’ favorite decks.
African Goddess Rising Oracle 44-Card Deck
This is the deck I’ve used the most for at least 5 years. It’s perfect for SELF REFLECTION as it makes it hard to just tell yourself what you want to hear. And the breakdown for what each card means for prosperity, relationships, etc. so good!
Wisdom of the Oracle
Perfect little book of affirmations and declarations. I use them every day!
Unapologetic Affirmations: 100+ Reminders
Self-love with actual teeth. This connects the way we relate to our bodies to the systems that taught us whose bodies deserve dignity. It’s personal, political, and useful.
The Body Is Not An Apology: Radical Self-Love
For anybody whose self-care keeps turning into one more thing to perform. This puts rest back in its spiritual, political, and deeply human context.
Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto: Hersey, Tricia
Pleasure is information, agency, and a birthright. This is for anyone ready to stop treating joy like a reward you earn after suffering.
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good
A clear-eyed book for separating love from control, performance, and inherited dysfunction. Read it slowly enough to notice which definitions you have been living by.
All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks
A grounded invitation to return to the parts of yourself abandoned for survival, approval, or belonging. Reflective without becoming vague.
Sisters of the Yam: Black Women & Self-Recovery
Dr. Theme is one of my favorites!
Homecoming
A useful challenge to wellness culture that ignores race, bodies, access, and power. Good for building practices that fit your actual life instead of another ideal.
Decolonizing Wellness by Dalia Kinsey
A necessary correction to feminism that centers respectability and visibility while ignoring food, housing, safety, and the material conditions shaping women’s lives.
Emergent Strategy
Essays that sharpen how you think about power, difference, anger, silence, and self-definition. Not a decorative classic. A working text.
Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall
Audre Lorde on power, difference, anger, silence, and self-definition. Not a decorative classic. This is a working text that asks something of you.
SISTER OUTSIDER AUDRE LORDE
Smart, funny, and exact about Black women’s anger and what it knows. Useful if you were taught that being palatable mattered more than being honest.
You Should... Read: Dr. Brittney Cooper's Eloquent Rage
Practical language for identifying, communicating, and maintaining boundaries without turning every relationship into a courtroom. Especially useful for recovering over-explainers.
How to Set Boundaries and Find Peace w/ Nedra
Such an incredible guide and collection of rituals and knowledge.
African Goddess Initiation: Sacred Rituals by Abiola Abrams