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Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Being a Working Mom
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items Nobody really prepares you for what it feels like to work all day and come home to another shift that doesn’t come with a clock-out time. These are the things I wish somebody had told me sooner about being a working mom—the guilt, the exhaustion, the...
The laundry can wait. The dishes can wait. That email can definitely wait. I used to think being responsible meant getting everything done before I rested. Sometimes being responsible means realizing tomorrow exists.
You Don’t Have to Finish Everything Tonight
Grocery pickup, frozen vegetables, paper plates on a crazy night, meal delivery when you can afford it—if something gives you 30 minutes of your life back, use it. There are no awards for doing motherhood on hard mode
Convenience Isn’t Laziness
Every day off doesn’t have to become doctor’s appointments, grocery shopping, cleaning and everybody else’s errands. Sometimes PTO needs to mean: Mom is OFF.
Take PTO Without Turning It Into an Errand Day
People actually live there. There are kids there. There will be shoes by the door and cups appearing in bedrooms despite everybody swearing they’re not theirs. 😂 Clean enough is sometimes enough.
Your House Doesn’t Need to Look Perfect
School events, practices, appointments, birthdays, work meetings…stop making your brain responsible for remembering everybody’s life.
Make a Family Calendar Before Your Brain Explodes
Walking through a grocery store after working all day with tired kids isn’t character building. 😂 Order it, pull up, pop the trunk and GO HOME.
Grocery Pickup Can Save Your Sanity
Some nights we’re cooking. Some nights we’re reheating. Some nights everybody is finding something. Your children aren’t going to remember whether Tuesday night’s dinner had three perfectly balanced courses.
Dinner Doesn’t Have to Be Impressive
Not because we’re trying to become Pinterest moms. 😂 It’s because answering “What’s for dinner?” seven separate times every week gets OLD.
Make a Meal Plan Before the Week Starts
Every school event doesn’t require you to volunteer. Every favor isn’t yours to handle. Every problem doesn’t need you to fix it. “I can’t this time” is a complete answer.
You Don’t Have to Say Yes to Everything
Sometimes I need a few minutes between employee-me and mom-me. Sit in the car. Play your music. Be quiet. Then go inside.
Give Yourself 15 Minutes Before Walking Into Your Second Shift
You’re comparing your Tuesday-night kitchen, unfolded laundry and exhausted face to somebody else’s edited 12-second video. That’s not a fair fight.
Stop Comparing Your Real Life to Somebody’s Highlight Reel
They don’t need elaborate activities every weekend. Sometimes popcorn, blankets and a movie on the couch becomes the memory they keep.
Your Kids Need Your Presence More Than Pinterest Perfection
You don’t have to be the cook, cleaner, laundry department and personal assistant for everybody capable of helping. Age-appropriate chores aren’t punishment—they’re part of being a family.
Let Your Kids Help
Books, audiobooks, children’s activities, homework resources and sometimes free events. One library card can quietly save a family a surprising amount of money.
Use the Library—Seriously
Not for your children. Not for your husband. Not for work. Something that reminds you there’s still a woman underneath all those responsibilities.
You Are Allowed to Have Something That’s Just Yours
Being reachable every second of every day will have you feeling like you’re permanently on call. Unless it’s an emergency, that message can wait 30 minutes.
Put the Phone on Do Not Disturb Sometimes
Don’t wait until you’re exhausted, irritated and ready to lose it before saying you need help. Everybody living in the house can participate in keeping the house running.
Ask for Help Before You’re Completely Over It
You don’t have to earn rest by completing every task first. Because let’s be serious—when you’re a mom, the tasks NEVER actually end. 😂
Stop Feeling Guilty for Resting
Your kids don’t need an expensive outing every weekend. Parks, libraries, community festivals, movie nights and walks can create just as many memories.
Free Family Fun Still Counts
Your worth isn’t measured by how clean the house is, how much money you made, whether dinner was homemade or how many boxes you checked today. You’re allowed to simply exist sometimes too.
You Are More Than What You Get Done