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Resources that helped me during and after divorce
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items I have lived every resource on this list and I've been in so many Facebook/Nextdoor/Linkedin groups where people are asking for help with divorce. Having gone through it myself in 2018 and having been in a child custody and placement dispute myself t...
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Books and teachers
Healing Practices
Movies that helped me through divorce
Podcast Interviews on relationships and divorce
Professional Support
These professionals helped me navigate the legal, practical, and emotional realities of divorce.
#1 Get a free consultation from divorce coach Tina Lynn Huggins. She has dealt with all different kinds of situations from simple settlement to child custody/placement, abuse, domestic violence, trafficking, coparenting. She will be able to tell you ...
Tina Lynn Huggins (@divorcecoachtinalynn) • Instagram profile
If you are in immediate danger of any kind and you're a woman, the Women's Center is your best option when there's nowhere else to turn. They helped me when my legal resources ran out-- sometimes they just helped me by listening on the phone and some...
The Women's Center | Safety. Shelter. Support | Waukesha, Wisconsin
You want to have a therapist because you will need it to get through this life transition. In my case, I was specifically looking for a therapist that specialized in EMDR therapy and that helped me tremendously.
Terri Lee Koschnick, MS, LMFT - LifeStance Health
If you have children, you will benefit from a coparenting counselor. Casey Holtz is the best in the business-- judges, attorneys, they all know him and he is worth every penny in helping you especially with high conflict divorce.
Milwaukee Area Child & Family License Psychologist
ReAnna was my daughter's guardian ad litem all through the process and post divorce.
ReAnna C. Grabow | D'Angelo & Grabow, LLP
Suzanne Fischer Lorenze was my divorce attorney-- what's funny is that she now works for Karp Iancu and David Iancu was my now ex husband's divorce attorney. And I know how much I healed to be able to say that with a chuckle today…my divorce was in 2...
Attorney Suzanne Fischer Lorenz: Family Law & Divorce in Waukesha · Karp & Iancu
Linda Vanden Heuvel helped me post divorce in child custody/placement. She carried the weight of the case, which social workers described as a high conflict case.
Linda Vanden Heuvel | Vanden Heuvel & Dineen, S.C.
Books and teachers
These are the resources I used to understand: 1) Why did this happen 2) Why do I choose what I choose? 3) How do I heal?
I didn't come upon this book until after I was divorced and it helped me heal in so many different ways. I can't list them all here but it definitely helped me in relationships with men.
Keys to the Kingdom by Alison Armstrong
Adam Lane Smith helped me understand attachment theory-- my own and in my relationships. This again helped me understand my results in relationships.
Adam Lane Smith Attachment Theory Specialist
This particular episode was very healing involving Gabor Mate and Mel Robbins.
Why You Feel Lost in Life: Dr. Gabor Maté on Trauma & How to Heal
If you are just looking into divorce, you want to get a consultation from at least three attorneys. And never ever take any paperwork home, don't hide it anywhere.
James J. Sexton high profile divorce attorney
This is the second book that I recommend to everyone going through divorce. It helped me become conscious of how I was getting the results I was receiving in relationships.
The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong
I don't know how many times I cried after watching Brian's videos. They helped me heal tremendously and I love how he gets straight to the point.
Awakening With Brian
Healing Practices
All through the process, I was questioning everything about my life and that led me on a spiritual journey. Healing practices allowed me to recover, support my nervous system, and be a mother that supports her daughter.
I consistently had a gym membership to take care of myself and my daughter rain or shine. There are so many great programs and financial resources from the Y and I highly recommend it. The YMCA that I love to go to has a women's only locker room with...
Tri County YMCA | YMCA of Greater Waukesha County
Yoga is a part of my practice and coincides with my reiki practice. Same prana/chi/energy just a different modality.
Yoga International: Study And Download Yoga Online
I became a reiki master in 2016 before divorce...after divorce, reiki took on a whole new way of showing up in the world. Each person that comes to me is a healer in that as I heal them they heal me.
What is Reiki?
I took on a deep study of the tarot, which is the hero's journey wrapped inside the fool's journey.
Builders of the Adytum study of the tarot...law of the universe, agencies, and effects
Neville Goddard has been walking this life with me since 2014. I look through his books again and again and I love tying all the Greek, Aramaic, Hebrew texts back to the original meaning. I even have a Strong's Dictionary to follow along with his tea...
Read Neville Goddard For Free Online - Books & Lectures
Edgar Cayce's books came to me in 2014 along with Neville Goddard's books. Post divorce, I started studying past life regression, which led me to quantum healing hypnosis technique. In 2019 (post divorce), I had my first past life regression and fast...
Edgar Cayce
Dolores Cannon's work is almost like the continuation of Edgar Cayce's work with a twist, she is not the sleeping prophet, her clients go under hypnosis.
Dolores Cannon
Movies that helped me through divorce
I wasn't just trying to survive divorce. I was trying to rebuild a sense of possibility. Movies helped me imagine a different future.
We had to watch this movie in a coparenting class that was required for people getting divorced that had children. I remember crying in the class and it suddenly hit me that this was happening. So I always try have compassion and empathy for everyone...
Mrs. Doubtfire (1993) - IMDb
You can find all the lessons I learned from Eat, Pray, Love in a list on my Benable profile. I learned so many lessons on relationships from this movie.
Eat Pray Love (2010) - IMDb
American Beauty can be a tough film to watch after having read the Queen's Code and Keys to the Kingdom. But what I know now, I would never take back.
American Beauty (1999) - IMDb
After reading Keys to the Kingdom and the Queen's Code, I used Pretty Woman to help me understand relationships between men and women. This is a pretty good example.
Pretty Woman (1990) - IMDb
Sliding Doors just recently came to me, even though I was in high school when this movie came out-- I don't remember it at all. But it helped me see my life and some relationships through a different lens.
Sliding Doors (1998) - IMDb
I think of this as a cliff note's version of William Shakespeare's Midsummer Night's Dream. It helped me understand attachment theory and put my relationships into perspective.
Four Weddings and a Funeral (1994) - IMDb
The Matrix is listed in Alison Armstrong's Keys to the Kingdom-- its definitely a red pill, once you see it you can't unsee what's there. This helped me in my relationship to myself and others.
The Matrix (1999) - IMDb
Under the Tuscan Sun is about a woman that goes through divorce and moves to Italy only to realize she was looking for love in all the wrong places, she had it all along. It helped me put into perspective that sometimes things fall into place in ways...
Under the Tuscan Sun (2003) - IMDb
Just watch it for Whitney Houston and the music. No one's relationship is perfect, that's what I got from this film.
Waiting to Exhale (1995) - IMDb
This movie takes on a whole different meaning now that I'm divorced. Can I just say wow? lol
How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998) - IMDb
There's more to what meets the eye in this movie. This led me down a rabbit hole spiritually into learning more about Helena Blavatsky.
The Wizard of Oz (1939) - IMDb
Podcast Interviews on relationships and divorce
Wonderful stories of navigating divorce and relationships
Brian is one of my favorite guests and he has a wealth of knowledge on relationships
Brian Strubhar is a relationship coach that helps couples resolve misunderstandings
This woman walks her talk-- she's absolutely amazing and she will definitely help you no matter the situation and I have seen first hand some of the messiest, highest conflict divorces handled in ways that your attorney alone could never do.
Tina Lynn Huggins is the best in the business for divorce coaching
I can't say enough about giving Tina a call!
Tina Lynn Huggins on navigating divorce part II
Anja Lake has wonderful advice on navigating a thriving marriage
Anja Lake Provides Insight on a Thriving Marriage
Traci has an amazing faith based approach to relationships!
Traci Poe Shows us the 5 Love Languages
You will believe in love again after hearing this story of a woman who finds love after divorce.
Tanya Walker on Finding the Love of Your Dreams
Meg is a very strong woman, I feel so honored to have interviewed her and she tells the story of spending years in hiding from a stalker and all that she overcame.
Meg Grett-Pratt Helps You Date Smart
Check out Tina's podcast interviews on the awakening show
💜 We Need to Talk: Let’s Have a Conversation About Domestic Violence
Resources-- they are there for those that need help
Legal Help for the Pro Se Abused with Guest Tracey Bee
Helping people survive narcissistic abuse
22 Years of Narcissistic Abuse — Denise Kavaliaukas
This is specific to mediation during divorce
Abuse & Safe Mediation with Guest David Fein
A resource for abuse and ptsd
Abuse & PTSD Red Flags with Guest Juliana Matye
I share my own story on Tina's podcast and I do it to help other men and women
Awakening the Truth About Abuse - Special Co-Host Chrystal Meach
Divorce is a very emotional journey, this is one episode that helps navigate
Navigate the Emotional Journey of Divorce — Guest, Oona Metz
Divorce can be financially devastating and I just want to say that there are ways, like this podcast, to change that outcome.
Financials & Divorce — Guest Howard Gershman
This is a great episode especially when navigating the system with children involved.
Child Centered Divorce with Guest Rosalind Sedacca
This is one of my favorite interviews on relationships
Unhealthy Vs. Healthy Intimacy with Guest, Chrystal Meach
This interview was a huge part of healing in my own journey after divorce.
Don't Let Fear Hold You Back From Getting Intimate