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dapper outfits: flattering gender neutral wedding guest attire
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items I’ve been a guest at 6 weddings this year! let me help you find flattering and affordable gender neutral attire options. I’m a pretty petite 5”2 human, so I know how tricky it can be to find men’s cut pants that fit and aren’t too long. Add a reversi...
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styling guide! 🧵
dress shoes 👞
jewelry & bolo ties 🪄
best vests ! 👕
three piece suits 🤵🏻
blouses & button ups 👔
styling guide! 🧵
overwhelmed and not sure where to start on your gender neutral fashion journey? these guides from professional stylists show you how to pair tailored with flowy silhouettes, experiment with accessories, and find staple layering pieces for versatility
Susan shares her expertise as a stylist with us on proportions and trends in this helpful gender neutral style guide! I really like the emphasis she puts on inclusive sizing, quality craftsmanship, and sustainability. learning the silhouettes and fa...
Beyond the Binary: A Style Guide for Non-Binary Fashion
this helpful styling guide by On Post will help you understand how to combine and layer the gender neutral pieces you gravitate towards on this list. Key tips include pairing tailored with flowy silhouettes, experimenting with accessories, and includ...
Gender-Neutral Fashion: How to Style It
If you’re like me and you have trouble figuring out what wedding dress codes like “casual” “semi formal” and “formal” actually look like, this guide is super helpful. for each dress code The Knot team gives you tailored suggestions for various nonbin...
How to Choose a Nonbinary Wedding Outfit That Delivers Gender Euphoria
dress shoes 👞
put on your dancing shoes! oxfords last for years, are easy to move in, and elevate every outfit 🪄
I bought these for the 6 weddings we have this year, and I get compliments by friends and the photographers all the time
Dr. Martens 3989 Brogue Casual Shoe - Black / White
gorgeous cherry red loafers that give the perfect androgynous look to any formal wear outfit. would pair well with black, navy, forest green, or mustard yellow trousers or a dress/ skirt
Dr. Martens Adrian Tassel Loafer - Cherry Red
timeless classic staple that elevates any outfit and makes you feel that much fancier. a good pair of docs will last you 10+ years and I always get so many compliments
Vintage 90s Doc Martens Black and White Oxford Chunky ...
these are the same style as the Brogue black and white loafers in solid black if you’re looking for a plain color option. these pair super well with dresses, trousers, or jumpsuits, making them versatile enough to wear to a cocktail attire up to a bl...
Dr. Martens 3989 Brogue Shoe - Black
jewelry & bolo ties 🪄
androgynous accessories in gold, silver, & black color ways. Mainly Ana Luisa 👑
perfect elegant yet masculine ring to add to your ring stack! I like how it looks on the middle finger but choose your preferred fit
Ana Luisa Gold Signet Ring - Amara Black
perfect elegant staple piece to elevate a vest pants combo for more formal celebrations
Ana Luisa Gold Hoop Earrings - Tymie
a carabiner necklace. enough said. you need this!! we need to spot each other in the wild :) this would look great with any wedding guest outfit in all seriousness though
Ana Luisa Carabiner Cyrus Pendant Necklace
these earrings are fierce and bold while also timeless and classy. would go great with a solid color top and the black and white doc oxford loafers
Ana Luisa Gold Stud Earrings - Sloane Two Tone
this bolo tie adds the perfect subtle masculine and feminine flair to your gender neutral wedding guest outfit! PRO TIP layer this bolo tie with shorter necklaces like the Ana Luisa carabiner chain or wear as its own layer on top of a more patterned ...
90s Gold Tone Slider Bolo Box Chain Necklace | Teardrop Bolo Necklace | Tie Necklace | Lariat Modernist Necklace
I get compliments on this deep green bolo tie every time I wear it! I love how versatile it is and that you could wear it to more of an intimate casual wedding or use it to dress up a three piece suit for a black tie wedding. elevate your look!
Deep Forest Green Stone Bolo Tie
best vests ! 👕
earth tone vests that flatter without being too tight to your body. pair with trousers
gorgeous tailored fit in chocolate brown color. great for layering over a short or long sleeve button up shirt. add a tie or bolo tie and some black and white oxfords to finish out the look!
matty m. Davenport Linen Blend chocoolate brown Vest
slightly more cinched option of a chocolate brown tailored vest. perfect for fall and winter weddings but also has that timeless neutral earth tone look that could work year round!
Manière De Voir Christine Tailored Cinch Vest Waistcoat Chocolate Brown
nice budget friendly option if you like more dark / earthy colors and comfortably fit into men’s sizes! the green color looks real pretty pictured here
Gioberti Men's Formal Suit Vest Dark Green
this houndstooth pattern would pair well with dark green, navy, maroon, or black pants. add some Ana Luisa jewelry + doc oxfords + pants or a skirt and you’re set!
Juniors' SO® High Neck Longline Vest in Black, White, & Houndstooth
NOTE- my outfit pictured isn’t from this exact link, but the Etsy listing is the closest looking item I could find. so, the cut and fit of the item may vary from the photo slightly. pair with black pants and oxfords for a timeless classy look!
Blue Pinstripe Suit: Men's Slim Fit 3-Piece Peak Lapel
the floral design on this is TOO GOOD! Would pair so well with the emerald green long sleeve button up listed here or the fitted or flowy black trousers. Also goes great with some dr.martens oxfords. Perfect for spring or fall time
The Empower Tie
three piece suits 🤵🏻
flattering three piece suits in gorgeous color ways for when you want the ease of one stop shopping
dark raspberry three piece suit. the way this is STUNNING for fall weddings. also could be great if you’re a part of the bridal or groom party and the color way is pink or red
Dark Raspberry Linen Women Suit 3 Piece, Marsala Pantsuit Set, Blazer Vest Palazzo Pants, Summer Wedding Outfit, Elegant Tailored Suit
the deep green color on this set is absolutely STUNNING and the price is worth it for the tailor’s attention to detail and quality craftsmanship you get! get ready for all your friends to ask you where you got your suit because it’s so flattering
Emerald Green 3 Piece Tuxedo Suit, Tailored Blazer Pantsuit Set
blouses & button ups 👔
elegant statement blouses to pair with trousers
NOTE- the blue blouse I wore in the first photo is not exactly the one linked, but this gorgeous Michael Kors top is the closest blouse i could find. Pair with colored or black fitted pants & oxfords
Corded Floral Lace Cropped Blouse
breathable yet elegant piece perfect to layer under a maroon or forest green vest and/or suit jacket! to me a high neck cut always makes an outfit look that much more intentional, and the eyelet trim detail here is so gorgeous. pair with a more “masc...
Cream Lace High Neck Blouse- layer under a vest or suit jacket
the gem tone emerald green color on this button up is so elegant! I love how the silhouette on this top mixes silky with structured elements for the perfect blend of masculine and feminine aesthetics. The latte (gold) and crystal lake (blue) colors a...
Silky Classic Button Up Long Sleeve Shirt in Emerald Green| Banana Republic
pants & trousers 👖
a quality trouser completes the look you’ve started with a statement blouse or vest
nice classy fitted trousers to pair with a button up shirt and a vest! make sure to take both your hip and waist measurements since “men’s” pants can fit slightly different than women’s pants
Express - Men's & Women's Clothing Black Fitted Formal Trousers
black high waisted slight flare trousers from express. I have a pair in fucschia that was pretty similar to this cut from a few years back and they have a flattering fit and are comfy enough to dance around in at weddings!
Express - Men's & Women's Clothing
belts & brooches 🧷
complete your outfit with a reversible belt or a calla lily brooch that will get you a ton of compliments.
perfect belt for weddings you have to travel to because you only need to pack one belt in your suitcase to have 2 options- black and brown! mix and match with your rehearsal dinner & wedding night outfits
Vegan-Leather Reversible Belt Black / Brown
wore this brooch with a blue pin striped vest and got a ton of compliments. adds a nice floral feminine touch to more masculine leaning outfits
Pink Calla Lily Floral Brooch
out of town weddings 🧳
practical, smooth, and gorgeous storage solution for travel to the hotel/ staying with friends or family. comes with a sleek black drawstring bag for dirty clothes, which is a big help in keeping clean and dirty clothes separate while at the hotel. g...
Softside Bigger Carry-On in Coast Blue
I’ve had these for 7 years and they are an ESSENTIAL item I use daily and for travel! I have auditory processing disorder and these allow me to tune into my own music to ground myself while at the airport, working, or doing life tasks or packing at h...
WH-1000XM5 Wireless Noise Cancelling Over-the-Ear Headphones
love my loops! great for weddings with loud music but you want to still be able to dance or talk with friends! 🎶 The green color is so cute and comes with a carrying case you can attach to your keys or bag. fit nicely in my jansport fanny pack for e...
Loop Switch™ 2 Adjustable 3-in-1 Earplugs for Any Situation - Emerald