pain is all consuming and unfortunately it requires a lot of time to effectively manage. it has taken me a decade to slowly slowly build up a line up of products that help. here are some that I use, I hope it will be helpful for you as well.
use code talia10 for a 10% discount; I use my shakti everyday for tension release and help with sleep. the pillow is also underrated for headache and neck tension release
The Shakti Acupressure Mat - code talia10
great for getting hard to reach trigger points
Theracane
I'm not able to cook much, but this really helps given difficulties with hand dexterity
Food Chopper
truly wouldn't be able to open jars without the assist from this product
Jar Openers
the vibration from this headband really helps during a migraine to mitigate symptoms, though it doesn't always last after I take the band off, it gives me some immediate release that is muuuch appreciated
Intellinetix Vibrating Headache Band - Relief from migraines
these add a cold compress to your head; can be helpful for migraines
Be Koool (for migraines)
I use for cervical dystonia / neck weakness; great for planes (consult with your doctor first)
Releaf® Neck Rest (Medium) - Caldera International
compression gloves are really helpful for me when I have a lot of hand pain
Copper Infused Compression Gloves S/M Black
great to get out neck & head tension
Chirp Wheel
get asked about these and complimented on them all the time! very helpful for my hand hypermobility
Silver Ring Splint Co
great for cramps, and I wear them on the go :)
Thermacare Menstrual Heatwrap
makes my period easier; so not technically pain management but I appreciate this product a lot
The Menstrual Cup | Cora
foam rollers are an awesome way to release tension; different people have preferences for different types; talk to your physical therapist if you have questions
Foam Roller
roll out those muscles! better than stretching for people with EDS (though of course run that by your physical therapist)