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Feeling Disconnected? These Books Can Change Everything
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items Rediscover your body, desires, and confidence with this empowering collection of books for midlife women. Designed for women in midlife ready to embrace pleasure, intimacy, and authentic connection, these reads help you unlearn outdated beliefs, heal...
The Ethical Slut is the definitive guide to polyamory, open relationships, and sexual freedom. Updated with new interviews, conflict resolution tools, and inclusive language, it offers practical advice on communication, jealousy, and creating loving,...
The Ethical Slut
Better Sex Through Mindfulness offers a science-backed approach to help women boost desire, enhance arousal, and deepen intimacy. Written by psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto, this guide blends real-life stories with practical mindfulne...
Better Sex Through Mindfulness
Sex for One is the groundbreaking classic that celebrates the joy, freedom, and empowerment of self-pleasure. Renowned sex educator Betty Dodson, Ph.D., dismantles the shame around masturbation and reveals it as a vital, fulfilling form of sexual exp...
Sex for One
Tongue Tied is a bold, sex-positive guide to unlocking better intimacy through open, fearless communication. Sex educator Stella Harris shows how to ask for what you want—whether exploring new fantasies, deepening connection, or navigating kink—with ...
Tongue Tied
Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz is an award-winning, research-backed guide to closing the "pleasure gap" and empowering women to experience more fulfilling sex. Combining science, cultural insight, and practical techniques, Mintz debunks myths...
Becoming Cliterate
Come As You Are (Revised and Updated) by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., is the #1 bestselling guide that blends cutting-edge science and compassionate insight to transform women’s sexual wellbeing. This updated edition includes new research on mindfulness, de...
Come As You Are: Revised & Updated Science
Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good (About Sex) by Nadia Bolz-Weber is a bold New York Times bestseller that dismantles shame-based ideas about sex, gender, and desire. With raw honesty, humor, and a fresh take on Scripture, Bolz...
Shameless
The Complete Illustrated Kama Sutra by Lance Dane is a richly detailed edition of the timeless Hindu love classic, featuring the first fully illustrated translation of all 64 sexual postures. Accompanied by 269 rare images from art, sculpture, manusc...
The Complete Illustrated Kama Sutra
Sex Matters by Mona Charen is a sharp, research-backed critique of modern feminism, examining how its promises of “having it all” have failed to deliver true happiness for women and men. Drawing on social science, personal experience, and cultural an...
Sex Matters
An honest, kind, and practical guide to intimacy after 40. This book breaks down myths, answers the questions we’re often too shy to ask, and shows how midlife can be a new beginning for passion, closeness, and real connection.
Sex After 40: Reignite Passion & Intimacy
This book feels like a gentle guide for survivors who are ready to move past just surviving and into really living again. It offers practical, compassionate tools to release shame, rebuild trust, and rediscover pleasure and passion on your own terms.
Reclaiming Pleasure: Sex Positive Guide
This novel is wild, funny, and deeply honest about midlife desire and freedom. It follows a 45-year-old woman who steps off the path of her everyday life and into a bold, unexpected journey of reinvention. Miranda July’s writing is quirky, raw, and c...
All Fours: A Novel by Miranda July
A bold and intimate collection of women’s fantasies from around the world; funny, tender, daring, and everything in between. Gillian Anderson shows us that pleasure doesn’t fade with age, it grows richer. A beautiful reminder to explore and embrace y...
Want: Sexual Fantasies by Anonymous
An empowering guide to stop living as an object and start fully owning your desires. Suzannah Weiss helps you reclaim your voice, your pleasure, and your power in a world that needs women to step into both.
Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject
This book challenges the idea that womanhood is defined by pain. Suzannah Weiss reframes periods, childbirth, and sex, not as curses, but as places where pleasure and joy can be reclaimed. Through stories and research, she shows a path from suffering...
Eve's Blessing: Uncovering Female Pain
A raw, funny, and deeply human memoir about learning to talk about sex and embrace pleasure. Kaleigh Trace writes with honesty, humor, and tenderness and reminds us that imperfection is not only okay, it’s beautiful.
Hot, Wet, and Shaking: How I Learned To Talk About Sex
Esther Perel really digs into why desire can fade in long-term relationships and shows how intimacy and passion don’t have to cancel each other out. I love how she reframes midlife routines as an opportunity to get creative and keep the spark alive.
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
This book is honest, hopeful, and practical, sharing real stories about midlife sexuality that many of us can relate to. It offers guidance for navigating shifting desires, tricky conversations, and the emotional ups and downs of intimacy with humor ...
Sexually Woke: Secrets to Best Sex Life Midlife
This book is raw, thoughtful, and deeply real. The author mixes her own story with cultural insights, showing how women’s desires can get muted, even in spaces that are supposed to empower us and how we can start taking back our own erotic voice.
Unmastered: A Book on Desire, Most Difficult
This book is smart, validating, and refreshingly real. The author breaks down the myths around menopause and shows how this season of life can actually be a time to reclaim health, confidence, and even sexual pleasure. It’s both practical and empower...
The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health