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Soft Life on a Budget: Self-Care Essentials for Moms ✨
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items For the moms who take care of everybody…this list is for YOU. 🤎
As women, and especially as women of color, we can get so used to being the strong one, the dependable one, the one who keeps everything moving, that taking care of ourselves gets push...
Sections
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Set the Mood | Create Your Peace
Wash the Day Away | Bath & Shower Essentials
Love on Your Skin | Body Care for Melanin
At-Home Spa Essentials
Wrap Yourself in Softness
Pour Something & Unwind
Set the Mood | Create Your Peace
The first step to winding down is changing the atmosphere. 🕯️✨ A good candle instantly makes home feel calmer, warmer, and a little more luxurious. Light one, dim the lights, put the phone down, and let that be your signal that you’re officially off...
Big light OFF. 😌✨ This little lamp is such an easy way to instantly make your space feel softer and more peaceful. I love that it’s dimmable and has different color options, so you can create the perfect cozy atmosphere for your shower, skincare rou...
Noahstrong Night Light, Dimmable Touch Lamp for Bedroom, Portable Bedside Table Lamps, 5 Brightness and 13 RGB Colors Night Light Suitable for Bedroom/Office/Bathroom/Hallways/Living Room
Because sometimes the reset starts with the right playlist. 🎶🤎 I love a portable speaker for filling the room with R&B, gospel, jazz, affirmations, a podcast—or whatever helps you come back to YOU. Turn it on, put the phone down, and let the mu...
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A candle is an instant mood changer. 🕯️✨ I love a warm, luxe scent that makes the whole room feel like a spa or boutique hotel without the luxury price tag. Light it while you shower, journal, read, or simply sit in silence — sometimes creating a li...
Scented Candles | Seasonal Candles & Home Fragrance
Wash the Day Away | Bath & Shower Essentials
Once you switch to an African net sponge, it’s hard to go back. 🧖🏾♀️🤎 It gives that GOOD exfoliating scrub, reaches your back easily, lathers beautifully, and leaves your skin feeling incredibly clean and smooth. A simple, affordable upgrade that...
BELLANOMI African Net Sponge - Authentic Sapo Exfoliating Net, Ethically sourced from Nigeria, 45" Long Back Scrubber, Quick Dry Loofah Alternative for Gentle Exfoliation Daily Use
For the days you want that extra-smooth, polished-skin feeling. 🧖🏾♀️✨ These exfoliating gloves help buff away dry, dull skin and turn a regular shower into a full-body reset. Pair them with your favorite body wash or scrub, then follow with a rich...
Evri Exfoliating Gloves
This smells SO GOOD. 🤎✨ The Santal & Vetiver scent gives expensive hotel-spa energy and makes an ordinary shower feel instantly more luxurious. It’s one of those little upgrades that turns your “everything shower” into an actual experience — bec...
Santal & Vetiver Body Wash - Salt & Stone
Vanilla is my FAVORITE, so this was an easy yes for me. 😍🤎 It smells warm, sweet, grown, and luxurious — and the sugar + argan oil combo exfoliates while leaving your skin feeling soft and nourished. This is giving “I just left an expensive spa” wi...
Vanilla Vibezzz - Argan Oil + Sugar Balm Refillable Exfoliating Body Scrub Jar - JOSIE MARAN
No bathtub? No problem. 🧖🏾♀️✨ Shower steamers are one of my favorite ways to bring the spa experience straight into your everyday shower. The coconut + sandalwood scent gives warm, calming, luxury-spa vibes while the steam helps fill the shower wi...
Coconut Sandalwood Shower Steamers Aromatherapy Tablets - Dermasuri | Ulta Beauty
Love on Your Skin | Body Care for Melanin
Soft skin is part of the soft life too 🤎✨ These are my body-care picks for keeping melanin moisturized, glowing, smelling GOOD, and feeling loved on — because taking care of your skin should feel like a little luxury, not another chore.
Vanilla girlies, this one is for ussss 😍🍦 It smells SO good and leaves my skin feeling soft, moisturized, and looking glowy. It gives sweet, warm, expensive-smelling energy without the expensive price tag. Definitely one of those little things that...
Vanilla Body Butter Suga Baddie Fat Oil | NYX Professional Makeup
This is giving expensive spa treatment without the expensive spa price 😍✨ It’s thick, creamy & leaves my skin feeling SO soft and moisturized. Perfect for after an everything shower when I actually get a few minutes to pour back into ME. Moms sp...
Saltair Multi-Lipid Replenishing Body Butter - Golden Hour - 10oz: Moisturizing For Whole Body, Pineapple & Coconut Scent
Baby, if it says Vanilla Cashmere, I’m already sold 😂🤎 This body oil smells AMAZING and gives that soft, moisturized, glowing skin that makes you feel like you really did something for yourself. I love layering it with a vanilla lotion/body butter ...
eos Shea Butter Cashmere Body Oil, Vanilla Cashmere, 6 OZ
THIS is the kind of self-care we forget about! 😩🙌🏾 An overnight mask for your hands AND feet?! Put this on before bed and let it do the work while you sleep. I love anything that makes me feel pampered without adding another complicated step to my...
PAUME Overnight Hand and Foot Hydration Mask (Women)
A whole little at-home pedicure moment for just a few dollars?! Yes ma’am 😂🦶🏾✨ I love throwing on a foot mask while I’m watching my show, sipping my wine or just FINALLY sitting down for the night. It leaves your feet feeling soft & moisturize...
Que Bella Intensive Foot Mask: Moisturizing, Softening, Contains Shea Butter, Paraben-Free
At-Home Spa Essentials
Because sometimes the spa needs to come to YOU 🧖🏾♀️✨ These are my little luxuries for turning an ordinary night at home into a whole self-care experience — eye masks, pampering essentials, and all the things that help me slow down, reset, and feel...
Because “you look tired” is NOT the look we’re going for 😂✨ These little eye masks are perfect for those mornings (or nights) when mom life has been MOM-LIFING. Pop them on while you sip your coffee, wine, or enjoy 10 minutes of peace. 🧖🏾♀️ They ...
Grace & Stella Under Eye Mask - Gold - 2ct: Moisturizing, Brightening, Anti-Aging, Paraben-Free
Okayyy this is my kind of self-care 😍🥥✨ A face mask, a glass of wine, my favorite show & everybody leaving me ALONE for a few minutes 😂🙌🏾 This one is all about adding that extra hydration and giving your skin a little TLC. It’s an easy, affo...
Hydrating Hyaluronic Acid Face Masks - SEPHORA COLLECTION
Okay THIS is how we bring the spa HOME 😍🧖🏾♀️✨ A facial steamer instantly makes my regular skincare routine feel like a whole luxury experience. Put on some music, pour your wine, light the candle and give yourself a few uninterrupted minutes to j...
Pure Daily Care Nano Steamer 3-in-1 Facial Steamer, Humidifier, Towel Warmer with 5-Piece Skin Kit - Silver
Ohhhh these feel SO good after a long day 😩🧊✨ Keep them cold and give yourself a little facial massage when mom life has been doing the MOST 😂. I love these for that “I need to decompress and nobody talk to me for 10 minutes” kind of self-care. Th...
Chill Baby Cooling Cryo Globes - Pacifica | Ulta Beauty
Now THIS is for the mama carrying everybody’s problems in her neck and shoulders 😩😂🙌🏾 The massage + HEAT?! Yes please! Perfect for winding down after a long day when you’re sore, tense and just need somebody to take care of YOU for once. Throw th...
ZENART Shiatsu Shoulder Back and Neck Massager with Heat, Electric Deep Tissue Kneading Massage Pillow, Black
Wrap Yourself in Softness
Some days self-care looks like doing absolutely NOTHING — comfortably. 😂🤎 These are my cozy-girl essentials for slowing down, getting comfortable, and officially clocking out for the day. Soft robes, comfy pajamas, cozy blankets…because being wrapp...
A fluffy robe is basically the official uniform of “I’m DONE for the day” 😂🙌🏾🧖🏾♀️ There’s just something about getting out of an everything shower, moisturizing, putting on a soft cozy robe and realizing you don’t have to go ANYWHERE else. 😩✨ ...
ADR Womens Fluffy Robe, Fuzzy Robe for Women, Long Hooded Robes for Women, Plus Size Robe Pink Rose Quartz Large
Because after the everything shower, body butter, skincare AND robe…we are NOT putting on an old T-shirt 😂👏🏾✨ A cute satin pajama set just makes bedtime feel a little more luxurious — even if you’re literally just getting in the bed to scroll TikT...
Ekouaer 2 Pack Silk Pajamas for Women Short Sleeve Button Down Satin Pajama Set for Women Soft Pjs Loungewear Champagne/Wind Red S
Okayyy now we’re completing the whole soft-life uniform 😂💕 Robe? Check. Cute pajamas? Check. Fluffy slippers? ABSOLUTELY. There’s something about slipping into something soft and cozy that tells my brain, “Girl, the day is OVER.” 😩🙌🏾 Perfect for...
Women's Paris X-Band Scuff Slippers - Auden™ Pink L
Yessss, because sometimes self-care is literally just being COZY 😩💕 These are perfect after a shower, especially after you’ve moisturized those feet and don’t want all that goodness rubbing off 😂🙌🏾 Soft, warm & giving “I’m staying in this ho...
Women's Solid 2pk Cozy Crew Socks - Auden™ Pink/Tan 4-10: Recycled Polyester, Knit, Tagless
Now you KNOW the bonnet had to make the self-care list 😂🙌🏾💕 We are NOT doing the whole skincare, body care, cute pajamas routine just to go to sleep without protecting the hair! Satin bonnet on = the official sign that I am CLOCKED OUT for the ni...
Kiss Colors & Care Silky Satin Bonnet with Tie Band Edge - Dust Pink - XL - 2ct
THIS is the final step 😂💕 Everything shower done, skincare done, bonnet ON, wine poured…now wrap me up in my soft blanket and please act like I am unavailable. 😩🙌🏾 There’s something about a cozy blanket that makes doing absolutely NOTHING feel l...
Bedsure Plush Fleece Throw Blanket - Lightweight Soft Couch Blanket, Pink, 50x60 In
Pour Something & Unwind
Wine, tea, mocktails, hot chocolate…baby, pour WHATEVER helps you sit down for a minute 😂💕 This section is all about turning your favorite drink into a whole little self-care moment. Cute glasses, cozy mugs, fun drinks & a few extras that make ...
Because why does everything taste a little better out of a CUTE glass?! 😂💕🍷 These pink stemless glasses are giving grown, feminine & “mama is officially unwinding.” And wine is definitely NOT required — pour your mocktail, sparkling water, jui...
Veneto Stemless Wine Glass
Because sometimes the wine needs a Stanley too. 😂🍷💕 Cute, insulated AND has a lid?! Say less. I love this for sipping on the patio, relaxing in the bath, girls’ night or pouring your favorite mocktail and pretending you are somewhere with room ser...
The Valentine’s Day Textured Reserve Wine Tumbler | 11 OZ
Because regular ice cubes are apparently not part of my soft life anymore. 😂🌸💕 These little flower ice molds make even a $2 drink feel FANCY. Add fruit, edible flowers or freeze some juice inside and suddenly your little at-home mocktail is giving...
romoty Silicone Cherry Blossom Ice Mold with Lid, 2-Cavity 3D Flower Shaped Ice Sphere Maker, Food Grade Flexible Large Floral Ice Cube Tray for Whiskey, Cocktails, Iced Coffee, Tea Parties
It’s giving “I made this at home but it LOOKS like I paid $16 for it.” 😂💕🍹 A cute glass straw instantly makes your mocktail, iced coffee, tea or little evening drink feel more fancy. And these come with a cleaning brush AND a case?! Cute, reusable...
Unique Bargains Reusable Smooth Glass Straws with Cleaning Brush and Box 2 Pcs Pink
MOMS. You already know. 😭😂 Make the coffee. Get distracted. Come back 45 minutes later and it’s ICE COLD. This little mug warmer said NOT TODAY! 😂☕💕 I love that it comes with the cute mug too. Keep your coffee, tea or hot chocolate warm while you...
Coffee Warmer for Desk with Mug Set. Birthday Gifts Graduation Gifts for Woman. Coffee Cup Warmer with Automatic Shut Off, Heated Coffee Mug. Drink Warmer for Cocoa, Tea, Milk (Pink)
For my tea girlies who need a little “do NOT disturb me” moment. 😂☕💕 I love a sampler because you can pick your tea based on the MOOD — something cozy, something calming, something with a little spice. Grab your favorite mug, light a candle and giv...
VAHDAM Premium Assorted Tea Gift Set, 24 Pyramid Tea Bags in Elegant Presentation Box - Gourmet Tea Variety Pack - The Perfect Gift for Any Occasion
For the nights when I don’t want wine, I want to be COZY. 😂🍫☕💕 A hot chocolate sampler with different flavors?! Give me my favorite mug, a blanket, a good movie and leave me ALONE. 😂 This is such an easy little at-home treat that makes an ordinar...
Thoughtfully Gourmet Hot Chocolate Gift Set, Flavors Include Salted Caramel, Peppermint, French Vanilla and More, Set of 9
Okayyyy THIS is the “I have a bartender at home” level of soft life. 😂🍸✨ Load it up, pick your drink and let the machine handle the rest. No measuring, no guessing and no pretending I know what a “2 oz pour” looks like. 😂 Definitely a splurge, but...
Bartesian Premier Cocktail Maker
THIS is how we’re having cute drinks at home without buying 47 ingredients. 😂🍹💕 Pick your flavor, add water + ice and then add your favorite spirit OR keep it alcohol-free for a mocktail. Strawberry Mule? Mango Margarita? Passionfruit Paloma?! Yes...
Craftmix 12 Pack Variety Cocktail / Mocktail Mixer - Makes 12 Drinks
Because we’re protecting the furniture AND the aesthetic. 😂💕 These pink marble coasters are such a cute little upgrade for your coffee table, nightstand or drink station. Add your cute glass + fancy ice + favorite drink and suddenly the whole setup...
6 Pcs Marble Pink Drink Coasters with Holder Absorbent Coaster Sets Cup Heat-Resistant Hot Pads Mats for Bar Table Protection
Quiet the Noise | Mental & Emotional Reset
Because self-care isn’t always skincare, candles and cute pajamas. 🤎 Sometimes it’s protecting your peace, clearing your head, setting boundaries and giving yourself permission to just BE. These are little tools to help quiet the mental load, reconn...
A little nostalgia + a little peace and quiet 🙌🏾 I love anything that lets me put my phone DOWN and actually unwind. This 90s TV puzzle is such a cute way to slow your brain down, pour something good, put on some music and just CHILL. And 1000 piec...
MasterPieces 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle - Nostalgic 90s TV Shows for Adults - 19.25"x26.75"
Sometimes self-care is checking in with YOU. 💕 This gratitude journal gives you space to slow down, reflect on the good (even on the hard days), and be intentional about what you’re thankful for. As moms, we’re always pouring into everybody else — I...
Green Inspired Simply Grateful Journal: Guided Notebook for Women, Hard Cover, 5x7 Inches, 176 Pages, Multicolor
Because sometimes I need to do something that requires absolutely NOTHING from me. 😌🖍️ Put the phone down, grab some colored pencils, turn on your favorite playlist and just be still for a minute. I especially love seeing US represented in self-car...
Coloring with Coco: Rest and Reflect - by Andrea Ballo (Paperback)
Coloring + quiet time + a little time with God. 🙏🏾💕 I love this for those moments when I need to quiet ALL the noise and get centered again. The Bible verses and affirmations make it more than just a coloring book — it’s a chance to slow down, ref...
Coloring Faith: A Christian Coloring Book for Women Featuring Bible Verses and Inspirational Art, 80 pages (Paperback)
Okay hear me out… a crossword, your favorite drink, some good music playing and NOBODY asking you for anything. 😂🙌🏾 Sometimes self-care is giving your brain something fun to focus on instead of the 937 things on your mental to-do list. I love that...
Brain Games - Calm: Crossword Puzzles - Large Print - (Brain Games Large Print) by Publications International Ltd & Brain Games (Spiral Bound)
Sometimes you don’t need the perfect words — you just need a place to start. 🤎🙏🏾 I love that this book centers the prayers, poems and experiences of Black women. For the days when you’re carrying everybody else’s needs, trying to keep the faith AN...
When We Talk to God - by Sharifa Stevens (Hardcover)