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Pleasurelit Books to unlock and widen your pleasure potential ❤️🔥
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items My recommended and favourite books and reads to unlock, deepen and widen your pleasure potential.
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Pleasure Education
Body, Mind & Soul
Relationships
🌶️ Reads
Pleasure Education
I loved reading those books to unlock and widen my pleasure potential.
A must read book for sex education, no matter your gender or relationship dynamics.
Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life a book by Emily Nagoski
Love this book for the insights into tantra with practical exercises to implement.
Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century (Revised) a book by Barbara Carrellas and Annie Sprinkle
Love the kink education in this book, especially with the focus on sacred, mindful and conscious kink practices and play
Sacred Kink (Second Edition, Second) a book by Lee Harrington
Very interesting read about pleasure and toys and tools from the past in a fun way!
Kinky History: A Rollicking Journey Through Our Sexual Past, Present, and Future a book by Esmé Louise James
All about the P 🍆 It got recommended to me by a male Sexologist, so I had to get my hands onto it and the book is really comprehensive. Love knowing these insights to help male body people.
The Penis Book: A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis--From Size to Function and Everything in Between a book by Aaron Spitz
For more insights of tantra for the feminine. I love the energetic pleasure through tantra.
Tantric Orgasm for Women a book by Diana Richardson
Exploring my erotic blueprint helped me to really allow myself to embrace those parts of me.
Your Blueprint for Pleasure: Discover the 5 Erotic Types to Awaken--And Fulfill--Your Desires a book by Jaiya and Regena Thomashauer
Some great interesting insides from the past in regards to sex and pleasure, including toys.
A Curious History of Sex a book by Kate Lister
For the ones wanting to learn more about pegging. It covers a wide range of the common questions to the topic.
The Pegging Book: A Complete Guide to Anal Sex with a Strap-On Dildo a book by Lyndzi Miller and Cooper Beckett
Highly recommended book for everyone. It provides practical guides and tips to become more confident in the bedroom and to please your pleasure play partners.
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
Focus on female pleasure as a great read for anyone - men and women. Includes practices.
Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm
A great guide to slow down, to be more mindful and intentional to open yourself up to experience more pleasure inside and outside the bedroom.
Slow Pleasure: Explore Your Pleasure Spectrum
A great insight into what is possible to experience. There are many forms or orgasms and you can unlock multiple.
The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: Sexual Secrets Every Woman Should Know
Not just women can be multi-orgasmic. Men can experience this too.
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know
A great comprehensive book all about anal pleasure, health and more. Curious about butt play, this is a great way to start and even if you already play, great insights for more.
Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything in Between
Body, Mind & Soul
Most of those books came to me in the right moment to make a significant improvement in my life. Hopefully they will for you too.
Taken away so much from this 🙌🏼
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones a book by James Clear
Not an easy read at the start as it's explaining a lot of the science but overall EPIC for trauma understanding in the body. It's a thick book packed with research data as well.
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma a book by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Was a helpful read at the right time for me. I even gifted this one to my bestie.
Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? a book by Julie Smith
Helpful book to get some perspective changes and implement changes.
How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self a book by Nicole Lepera
Wow - just Oh my! It's like a handbook!
The Art of Seduction a book by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers
Very helpful for reclaiming pleasure after sexual abuse and trauma. Bringing empowerment from "victim" to "survivor".
Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life a book by Holly Richmond and Alexandra H Solomon
For a much deeper connection with your womb!
Womb Awakening: Initiatory Wisdom from the Creatrix of All Life a book by Azra Bertrand and Seren Bertrand
Loved reading this book - very inspiring and empowering for Pussy Power!
Pussy: A Reclamation a book by Regena Thomashauer
Includes simple practical tips
How to Win Friends and Influence People (Revised) a book by Dale Carnegie
Focuses on the perspective that the NOW is everything.
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment a book by Eckhart Tolle
Got this recommended by a Male Sex Coach on healthy masculinity. It helps men and women to understand more about men.
The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives
Another recommended read to understand and explore more about mindful, considerate, passionate, and fully embodied masculinity.
To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power
Not just a great read for men as a guide but also for women who want to support their men and gain an insight into their life. Highly recommended by men.
The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition)
A great resource book and guide for healing from trauma and reclaim your own power and use it for good in your life.
Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power, and Use It For Good
Relationships
I have learnt a lit more about various forms and types of connections with the insights of those books.
Great start for poly related exploration
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy a book by Jessica Fern, Nora Samaran, and Eve Rickert
Great additional read to "Come as you are" with a focus on couples here.
Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections a book by Emily Nagoski
Another guide to relationships, especially open and poly relationship insights.
The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love (Revised) a book by Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton, and Dossie Easton
This one explains the different attachment forms for oneself and within relationships.
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--And Keep--Love a book by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller, and Rachel Heller
Great read if you are not familiar with the 5 love languages yet. Not just for love in romantic partnerships. In all connections this is super helpful to understand how you like to be loved and how your others around you love to receive love.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts a book by Gary Chapman
This guide will take your relationship to the next level - you get a new sight of perspective and can deepen your connection. Highly recommended for couples
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Get an insight to what women really want. I love helping men to please and pleasure women.
The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab about What Women Really Want
Communication is a huge part within relationships. This book can help on how to discuss what matters most.
Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Tools to communicate better with anyone, professionally and personally. One very important skill to learn
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships
Vanessa has given me some amazing insights into non verbal communication skills that can be very useful in dating and relationships.
Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication
🌶️ Reads
I mean, who doesnt love spicy reads? There are soooo many to choose from. I love it with more kink. Please make sure to read the triggers though.
For the kinkier spicy 🌶️ reading 🥵
The Naughty List a book by Jade West
🌶️ read including toys
In To Her a book by Ja Huss
* Sapphic Mafia
* Plus size FMC
* Boss/employee
* Millionaire
* Pleasure Domme
Corrupt Goddess is a sapphic mafia romance with dark themes and non monogamy. It contains violence, kink, childhood trauma, and mentions of SA. It is intended to for a ma...
Corrupt Goddess a book by April Gaisford
The Mistresses of the Board Room: Women who want men strong enough to stand by them in the world, and kneel for them in the bedroom.
At Her Command: A Mistresses of the Board Room Novel a book by Joey W. Hill
Dark Fantasy, Vampires, Romance, Royalty, Polyamory
Court of the Vampire Queen (Collector's Edition) a book by Katee Robert
It’s on my own list still to read but I have heard so many hot statements about it. 🥵
Axes & O's