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Books for When You Wanna Stop Being Messyyy (sent w/ love)
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items This list is for the people who made mistakes, are learning from them, and are using therapy and other modalities to become a better friend, lover, family member, and person. I've been there- and all these books helped me transform my life!
Honestly any book by Brene Brown is a bop but this one goes into perfectionism and rewriting shame in such an accessible and engaging way! I love that all of her points are research based without sounding research based. This book helped me to transf...
Daring Greatly: Courage to Be Vulnerable
Tools for resistance and healing- this was the first bell hooks book I ever read and it helped me to understand the root of shame and where it comes from for many black women. I love how thoughtful bell hooks is in every single thing she writes: all ...
Sisters of the Yam: Black Women and Self-Recovery
But Sola this isn’t a book- this is a workbook! I KNOW BUT HEAT ME OUT. DBT Therapy changed my life. After six years of being in talk therapy DBT was refreshing and life changing because it focused less on the WHY and more on the WHAT. I get it you’r...
Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook
This book helped me to view the creative life differently especially as a person who once wanted to be a full time writer. This book made me ask myself: do I want to put pressure on my art? How can I fit art into my life in a meaningful way? What doe...
Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear
The Artist Way is not just about creativity- its about living in uncertainty and breaking through scarcity beliefs to create the kind of life and art you want. I have read and reread this book since it changed my life around age 12 (yes, I was a deep...
The Artist's Way: 30th Anniversary Edition
I return to this book when I'm grieving, surrendering, and letting go. It's a difficult read- one that will make you think of past loved ones, relationships and career paths that didn't work out, dreams that you had that went away. It's a book that w...
Option B: Facing Adversity & Building Resilience
I did a buddy read with a friend of this book in 2020 when the world was shut down and I was stuck in the house thinking about my childhood (great fun obviously). This book is like a conversation with a friend whose a great listener and who, more imp...
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Why do I keep feeling this way in relationships? This book will have you pondering on that and more. If you're unwilling to critically look at your past, notice where your triggers came from, and confront the patterns you have in relationships- then ...
The New Science of Adult Attachment
Oh, I just adore this book. Read this when you're ready to get rid of your perfectionism and see how we're forced to work harder than we actually need to get things done. Read this when you're ready to slip into ease and regulate your nervous system....
I Didn't Do The Thing Today: Madeleine Dore
BIG OOF. Oh wow this book transformed something in me. It gave me a better understanding of how to have boundaries without being a people pleaser and without being too strict so that I cut off all connection. Dr. Tawwab breaks each area of life down ...
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: Reclaim Yourself
We all struggle with our bodies- some of us more than others. What this book really is is a permission slip to love your body now- exactly the way it is even if its not exactly what you want. This book is so helpful in considering where and when we s...
The Body Is Not an Apology: Radical Self-Love
So this book is for the CPTSD (complex trauma) girlies. This is a memoir but so much can be learned from the story of Stephanie Foo and if you're struggling with managing trauma- you will absolutely see yourself in this book. What really resonated wi...
What My Bones Know: Memoir of Healing
This book is honestly worth it for the research studies alone. If you want to break through your own ideology and scarcity mindset this book will provide you with ample proof that our life experiences are impacted by our brain and the way we think way more than we think!
You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter
I recommend this book to anyone managing a breakup but I also recommend it to anyone who is struggling with surrender or change. This book is such a master class in what it means to LET GO of the things that don't serve us, the things we thought were...
This Is Me Letting You Go by Heidi Priebe
Oh wow this book is a FAVORITE. Absolutely gorgeous writing and a read that is seemingly quick to get through because of the page count- but one you will be meditating on for a long long time. Each poem and thought and observation is infused with mag...
Inward (The Inward Trilogy) - pueblo, yung: Books