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The Siren’s Bookshelf
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Words that do more than take up space. these are the books that helped me heal and reclaim myself. start anywhere. just start.
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Self Help
 
Narcissism
 
Attachment Styles
 
Rebuilding Self-Worth

Self Help

When you need a little guidance, this are tried and tested. These books have each left a life lesson with me in my healing journey and that's a criteria for making this list! Updated frequently because healing is a never ending journey.

Start tonight. Pick one book. Read ten pages. Write one note. Your healing begins where silence ends.

 
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Over two million copies sold. it explains trauma like nothing else.

This is the book that changed everything for me. The Body Keeps the Score explains how trauma lives in the body, how it reshapes our nervous system, and how healing is not just about the mind but the whole body. If you’ve ever wondered why you react ...
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
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The book that helped me drop shame and meet my body with care. You learn how stress and context shape desire and how to create the conditions where your body can say yes. I wish I had this when I began to reclaim my pleasure. Buy here. paperback. kin...
Come As You Are: Revised & Updated Book
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Healing changes how you love. Learn to spot red flags early. ask for what you need. and build trust that lasts. Read this if you are done repeating the old cycle. Buy here. paperback. kindle. audio.
The Gaslight Effect: Spot & Survive Manipulation
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Myth. story. psychology. it wakes the part of you that never wanted to be tame. Read a story at night and let it work on you. I keep this by my bed when life gets loud. Buy here. paperback. kindle. audio.
Women Who Run with the Wolves: Wildness & Strength
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Healing needs a place to land. Use one prompt a day. five minutes. Pairs well with body keeps the score or attached. Buy here. paperback.
Ultimate Shadow Work Journal & Workbook
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Narcissism

Learn how to spot, understand, and disarm the narcissistic patterns that keep you trapped in cycles of manipulation. Read one, highlight the tactics, and stop them before they pull you back in.

 
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Practical strategies for handling narcissistic behavior without losing yourself.
Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving & Thriving
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Focuses on escaping and healing from narcissistic partners.
Will I Ever Be Free of You?: Navigating High-Conflict Divorce
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Grounded, clear framework for evaluating and surviving narcissistic relationships.
Should I Stay or Go: Surviving Narcissist
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Attachment Styles

Attachment drives who we love and how we lose ourselves—these books show you the map and how to change it. Pick the one that matches your pattern, read a chapter tonight, and start rewriting the script.

 
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Tools for shifting insecure attachment into healthy connection.
Insecure in Love: Anxious Attachment Guide
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Brilliant exploration of attachment through nontraditional relationships, with healing practices.
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma & CNM
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Written for people who loop in anxious attachment cycles, with practical ways to step out.
Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure
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If your relationships feel like a loop. this maps the pattern. You learn anxious. avoidant. secure. and how to move toward secure with real steps. Readers map themselves in one night. then things click. Buy here. paperback. kindle. audio.
Attached: Understanding Relationship Attachment Styles
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Rebuilding Self-Worth

Self-worth doesn’t come back on its own; these are the guides that show you how to rebuild piece by piece. Choose one and practice one tool daily—you’ll feel the shift faster than you expect.

 
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Gentle, actionable steps to rebuild worth and identity.
The Self-Love Experiment: 15 Principles
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Classic mix of psychology and mindfulness to embrace yourself fully.
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Life with Buddha's Heart
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