Destiny Bokka

We live just outside Nashville with a 3 year old and a 1 year old, so I've learned the hard way which places are actually worth loading two car seats for. This is where we really go — parks, museums, the free stuff nobody tells you about, and the rainy-day options for when you're losing your mind indoors. I've noted what's free, what's stroller-friendly, and which ones hold up for a toddler and a baby at the same time. Most of this list costs nothing.

We have a standard poodle and she's six now, so I've had plenty of time to figure out what actually works on a curly coat between professional cuts. Poodle hair mats if you look away for a week — these are the brushes, clippers, and products that keep ours manageable without a groomer visit every month. I also make videos for pet brands, so I've tried more of this stuff than I probably needed to. Nothing here is fancy. It's what's in our bathroom cabinet.

🤍 These aren’t just books I’ve read. Some of them met me in the darkest, most wounded places of my life. Books about healing the parts of you that learned to survive instead of live. About understanding that what happened to you is not who you are. About forgiveness without pretending the pain never happened. About breaking generational cycles, rebuilding your identity, learning what healthy love looks like, and discovering that God was never afraid of your broken places. Ten years ago, I picked up Redeeming Love while carrying wounds I didn’t know how to name. I had no idea that the healing God began in me through that season would eventually shape the woman I became, the wife I am, and the mother I would one day be. This collection is for the woman who is tired of simply surviving. For the woman who wants to heal deeply, love differently, break the cycle, and let God redeem the parts of her story she once wished she could erase. Your past may be part of your story. It does not have to be the ending. 🤍

These are the books that got me through pregnancy — the ones that answered my questions, calmed my nerves, and reminded me God was already knitting my baby together, even on the days I felt completely unprepared. I’m not a doctor and I don’t have it all figured out. I just read a lot, and these are the ones that actually helped.

Both my kids have been raised with Montessori principles from birth, and our house has to work for a 3 year old and a 1 year old at the same time. These are the pieces we actually use every day, not the ones that photograph well and then sit there. If you're setting up a space where your toddler can get things done without you, I've noted what each piece is for and how it's held up with two kids on it.

I spent over a decade running after freedom before I finally got set free about 5 years ago. These are books I read along the way — not a program, not advice, just what helped me on the road to getting truly free. If you’re still in it, I hope one of these meets you where you are.

I create UGC as a mom with a 3 year old and a 1 year old, which means I film in the cracks of the day and almost never have someone around to hold the camera. This is the gear I actually use for paid brand work — hands-free mounts, an all-in-one starter kit, the pieces that let me film real life without an extra set of hands. You don't need all of it to start. I've noted what each one is actually good for, so you can pick the one or two that fit what you're filming instead of buying the whole pile.

We live just outside Nashville and chasing waterfalls has turned into our thing on the weekends, two little kids in tow. The first section is the ones we've actually stood in front of here in Tennessee — real trips, not a list I found online. The second is the bucket list: the best waterfalls in the USA we're working our way toward, from Yosemite to Niagara to Multnomah. For every one I've noted how long the hike is, whether there's a swimming hole, and whether it works with little ones, because that's what I always want to know before we drive out.