Benable — create shareable lists of things you recommend!
E.g., products you love, local businesses, travel recs - you can add anything to a Benable list!
Books for Emotional Healing, Boundaries, and Healthy Relationships
19
items Books I frequently recommend as a therapist.
I often recommend this book for those wanting to understand how trauma is stored in the body, not just the mind. It can be illuminating and validating, but it’s best read slowly and may not be appropriate during acute or highly vulnerable seasons.
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
I recommend this book for adults who grew up in divorced families and want to understand how early family disruption can shape attachment, relationships, and emotional patterns later in life. It offers insight and validation, though some readers may ...
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25 Year Landmark Study
I often recommend this book for those learning to take responsibility for what is theirs while releasing what is not. It offers a clear, faith-integrated framework for developing healthier relational limits, especially for people who struggle with gu...
Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How ...
I recommend this book for parents who want a deeper understanding of the emotional and developmental world of adolescent girls. It offers insight into what girls often need most at different stages, while helping parents respond with steadiness rathe...
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into ...
I often recommend this book for parents who feel stuck in power struggles or exhausted by traditional discipline approaches. It reframes challenging behavior as a skills and lagging-needs issue, offering a collaborative, respectful way to parent that...
Raising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your ...
I recommend this book for those trying to understand manipulative or exploitative relational patterns that leave them confused, guilty, or self-doubting. It can bring clarity and language to difficult dynamics, but may be emotionally activating for s...
In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People
I often recommend this book for those beginning to recognize patterns of over-responsibility, rescuing, or losing themselves in relationships. It offers a clear starting point for understanding codependency, though some language reflects the era in w...
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for ...
I often recommend this book for those seeking a more grounded, hope-filled understanding of heaven that shapes how we live now. It offers a thoughtful, Scripture-rich vision that can be especially comforting during seasons of grief or loss, though it...
Heaven by Randy Alcorn, Hardcover
I often recommend this book for couples who want to better understand emotional bonds and attachment within marriage. It offers a compassionate, research-informed framework for strengthening connection, especially when patterns of distance or conflic...
Created for Connection: Hold Me Tight Guide
I often recommend this book for those exploring how attachment wounds can shape addictive or compulsive patterns. It offers a thoughtful, faith-integrated lens that invites curiosity and compassion rather than shame, and is best read reflectively.
Surfing for God: Discovering Divine Desire
I often recommend this book for parents who want to better understand how screens and digital overstimulation can impact children’s emotional and neurological development. It offers research-based insight and practical guidance without leaning into f...
Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Hijacks Kids
I often recommend this book for parents, educators, and caregivers who want to understand the cultural and developmental factors contributing to rising anxiety in young people. It offers a clear, research-informed framework that helps adults respond ...
The Anxious Generation: The Great Rewiring of Childhood
I recommend this book for those wanting a clearer understanding of attachment styles and how they show up in adult relationships. It’s accessible and practical, especially for people noticing repeated relational patterns.
The New Science of Adult Attachment
This book offers a thoughtful, neuroscience-informed exploration of shame and its impact on relationships and spiritual life. I often suggest it for those ready to engage emotional healing with depth and compassion.
The Soul of Shame: Retelling Our Stories
I recommend this book for those who feel worn down by self-criticism or pressure to “push through.” It integrates faith, attachment, and nervous system awareness in a gentle, accessible way.
Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Anxiety & Stress
This is a foundational resource for understanding how emotional maturity and spiritual formation are deeply connected. I often suggest it for those wanting faith that supports honesty, limits, and growth.
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Spiritual Maturity
I recommend this book for parents and caregivers wanting a better understanding of children’s emotional and neurological development. It offers practical strategies grounded in brain science and relationship.
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Strategies to Nurture
I recommend this book for couples seeking to better understand emotional connection and recurring conflict patterns. It’s grounded in attachment theory and focused on strengthening secure bonds.
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for Love
This is a great book for those working to let go of perfectionism and shame while learning to live with greater authenticity and self-compassion. It offers accessible insight and practical reflection, especially helpful for people who feel exhausted ...
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go & Be You