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Things I wish I knew sooner 🦋✨
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items Little things life taught me through experience, mistakes, and growth. Not advice from someone who has it all figured out... just honest lessons learned the long way 🤍
Some lessons are about mindset. Some about hair. Some about choosing myself.
Sections
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🦋 Letting go & inner shifts
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💇🏽‍♀️ Hair lessons I learned too late
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🧠Things I thought were helping (but weren’t)
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🤍 Choosing myself, slowly
🦋 Letting go & inner shifts
Quiet realizations, mindset shifts, and inner growth moments.
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I used to think letting go meant losing.
People.
Versions of myself.
Plans I had imagined so clearly.
What I didn’t understand back then is that holding on too tightly was often what kept me stuck.
Holding on out of fear slowly costs more than rele...
Letting go to make space
💇🏽‍♀️ Hair lessons I learned too late
What my hair and eventually my skin & body taught me through damage, mistakes, and learning to listen instead of forcing results.
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I used to have very long hair, the kind people asked about, wondering if it was extensions.
But they weren’t.
They were the result of years of growth, patience, and care.
But over time, things slowly started to change.
Bleach, heat, and time damaged...
✂️ When holding on cost me my hair
🧠Things I thought were helping (but weren’t)
Habits, beliefs, routines, and choices I thought were good for me… until I realized they were holding me back.
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I thought avoiding trims was helping me keep my hair long.
In reality, it was doing the opposite.
By refusing trims out of fear of losing length, I let damage travel higher and higher.
What I thought was “saving” my hair was slowly breaking it.
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Avoiding trims didn’t save my length — it broke my hair
🤍 Choosing myself, slowly
The actions that followed. Choosing myself, even when it was hard.
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I didn’t wake up one day suddenly choosing myself.
It happened quietly… in small moments.
When I stopped explaining myself.
When I stopped waiting for clarity that never came.
When I noticed how tired I felt after trying to be understood.
I used to...
I didn’t lose them, I found myself